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Anger: What Do I Do About it?

Everyone gets angry. It’s a common emotion. If you believe you have never been angry, I would guess you’re in denial – a stuffer. How is that working for you? Others explode. How does that impact your boss, your spouse, your children?

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Okay then, you might say. What else can I do? That question plagues almost everyone from time to time. First, let me say righteous anger is not a sin. But it can become a sin depending on how you handle it. There are degrees of anger, everything from mildly irritated to rage strong enough to kill, even some that does carry through to murder.

In fact, it may even be the anger that causes the person to pull the trigger. Why? Because anger hurts the person who is angry. The angry behavior may hurt the target of the anger, but the angry person feels the pain of the anger. Anger that leads to retaliation also hurts the perpetrator who more than likely gets caught and the consequences can be much worse than the angry feeling.

What about the stuffer? The stuffers may not be in touch with their anger. Don’t be fooled. The anger is hidden deep in the stuffer’s body. It can lead to all kinds of physical symptoms, including heart attacks.

The solution for both is easy to write about, but not so easy to do in the moment. First, the angry person needs to recognize the angry feelings. Then take a time out to calm down. Consider your part in the situation that caused your anger. Don’t go back until you can talk rationally. Listen to the other person’s words. Explain your side of the story.

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The Bible says, “In your anger, do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” (Ephesian 4:26 NIV) It also tells us, (“If your brother sins against you, go, and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.” (Matthew 18:15 NIV) This is great advice, even if you are not a believer.

One more step can keep you our of trouble. Forgive. Do it as soon as you can. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you like what happened or even that you want to continue the relationship with the source of your anger. It just means you are willing to live with the consequences of what the person did.  Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting it to hurt the other person. Forgiveness sets your free.

I would love to hear your questions or your suggestions based on this blog.

Do you have anything you do that helps you calm yourself when you feel angry?

Is there an experience where you learned something to help you with your anger or someone else’s anger?

This is an important subject because too many young people are getting killed because they don’t know how to deal with anger.

What suggestions can you give to help?

 

Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

“Emotional Neglect is the white space in the family picture; the background rather than the foreground. It is insidious and overlooked while it does its silent damage to people’s lives.” (Dr. Jonic…

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If My People . . .

This blog reminds us. We are a Christian nation.

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As we look at today’s America, sometimes it’s almost impossible to recognize the country we once knew so well. Contrary to what many would have us believe, we were founded on Christian principles. Today some would call those of us living by those principles terrorists. Instead of living by God’s standards of right and wrong, people are encouraged to do their own thing. Decide for themselves what’s right for them. Our Constitution is considered outdated. Courts are ruling against Christians who make a stand for their within their own businesses. Marriage has been redefined. And on and on . . .

So what can we as Christians do? It’s easy to point fingers. At the politicians. At the ones condemning us for our faith. But God tells us to look inward first.

If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face…

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Jumping through Fires

What an amazing testimony of God’s love and grace. It’s worth the 5 minutes.

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Religion can lead to you being disillusioned with what you may think is faith. Finding Jesus is about finding life and becoming spiritually free and alive. Jesus said He is the way, the truth and the life and that no one can know God except through Him. If you have been searching for spiritual freedom and haven’t found it in being religious, don’t pass up the opportunity to accept Jesus Christ and make Him a part of your life.

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The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows). – John 10:10

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My 10 Secrets to Survival After Losing A Child

If you have ever lost a loved one, read this.

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I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard…

“I don’t know how you do it.”

“I would go crazy if I were you.”

“I couldn’t survive losing my child,” not to mention the comments many say quietly to themselves, secretly thankful it wasn’t their child. Let’s be honest.  I know many of you suffering through grief have heard similar things and more. Hearing these words makes a grieving soul cringe with pain.

We didn’t choose this life, yet what are we supposed to do when we are face to face with our worst nightmare?

No matter what your grief is let me tell you, yes you can survive. And no, it’s not all sunshine and roses, it’s a dark, lonely, road less taken, but believe it or not, it is possible to come out on the other side.

So how did I survive all these years?  At the time, overcome…

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