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Misconceptions Everyone Needs to Understand about Sex Trafficking

This blog was written by my good friend, Carol Wiley, who is the director of A Way Out Program that rescues women who are caught in the web of trafficking. She gives them a safe place to live for themselves and their children, counseling, a mentor, and an opportunity to live a free and normal life. Carol is an amazing woman. She shares information we all need to know, especially if you have children, teens, or daughters in their twenties.

1. Trafficking must involve the crossing of borders. Anti-trafficking laws don’t require that victims must have traveled from another country or across state lines. Pimps (Traffickers) often take their women from state to state, for example the Super Bowl is a big draw for their business. They take the girl’s ID’s, Birth certificates, Social Security Cards. They also work with women from their hometown and if they get arrested, they pay their bail and move on to another town and remind the women over and over that if they go home they will be arrested and have to serve time.

2. Human Trafficking Happens in Other Countries More than in the U.S.A. In 2913, TIP report found that human trafficking has been reported in all fifty states.
In 2006 the FBI estimated that the trafficking of humans generated approximately 9.5 billion annually for organized crime.

3. Victims know what they are getting into or have a chance to escape. The read fact is that among the 500 plus women we have helped in varying degrees through A Way Out Program , most all have been duped into it by slick traffickers posing as “boyfriends.” After a period of conditioning they put them put out to sell their bodies. Some victims have freedom of movement, but are coerced to return to the trafficker because they are afraid of being beaten themselves or believe he will make good on his threats to harm their families.

4. Prostitution is a victimless crime. One report from the FBI stated that in over 100 arrests, most of the women expressed that prostitution was not their career of choice. I (Carol) personally can tell you that in all women I have interviewed, not one said that as a little girl they dreamed of becoming a prostitute who sold her body and then turned her earnings over to a controlling abusive master.

Under federal law, an individual who uses physical or psychological violence to force or coerce someone into labor or services or into commercial sex acts is considered a human trafficker. Therefore while some victims experience beatings, rapes, or other forms of physical violence, many victims are controlled by traffickers through psychological means, such as threats or violence, manipulation, and lies. In many cases, traffickers use a combination of direct violence and mental abuse. (Polaris Project)

5. Pornography, stripping, and prostitution are unrelated to human trafficking In a study by Focus on the Family they reported that pornography serves as the market vehicle in commercial sex trafficking. Also, the study done by Shared Hope found that 1 out of every 3 pornography images is of a child and that 55% of child pornography comes from the U.S.A. and sale of the same has become more than $3 billion annual industry.

6. Females are the only victims of sex trafficking. The U.N. Office of Drug and Crimes estimates that as many as 20% of the sex trafficking
victims are males.

This is far from a comprehensive list of myths concerning the sex trafficking industry. The sobering truth is that even though large-scale slavery was abolished in 1863 with the Emancipation Proclamation, there are more slaves trapped in sexual slavery than at any time in history. There are over 30 million worldwide with approximately 80% of sex trafficking being women and children.

Please pay attention to this post. Someone you know might be trapped into this hell. Even if you never know a person who has had to deal with this nightmare, it’s clear someone wants out. If you can’t do anything else, please re-post this. Also please comment. This is an important subject we all should be concerned about. Thank you.

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Divorce or Death: How To Help Grieving Children

Taken from Growing Seasons: How to Help Children Heal from Divorce and Other Losses, a small group curriculum  by Jean Brunson. 

Published by Living Free Ministries. http://store.livingfree.org/Small-Group-Curriculums_c_51.html

Ages and Stages

Infants: Babies believe a person or thing only exists when it is in their field of vision. Grief for an infant is caused by breaking the bond. If bonding is broken in the first two years of life, babies need to quickly bond with someone else. This is essential if they are to establish trust in their world. Infants and toddlers also respond to the emotions of those around them.

Preschoolers: Little children still do not fully understand object permanence. They think death is reversible, like it is on cartoons. This is an age of much magical thinking. They may believe they did something to cause the the loss.

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Ages Six to Ten: Early elementary age children are still concrete in their thinking, so it is important not to use euphemisms in explaining death. They understand that death is final but may think of it as a ghost they can outsmart.  After a death or divorce, they feel much sadness but they think they can control it. They need to be encouraged to express it. Boys tend to be more prone to expressing their emotions of anger and acting out while girls seem to show more sorrow.

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Eleven to Teenage: Preteens tend to act angry because it seems more acceptable than sadness. They may long to retreat into childhood and look for meaning in the the loss. Any adolescent rebellion that occurred before the loss can cause feelings of guilt. Children this age may have difficulty concentrating in school.

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Grief from a loss of any kind does impact children. I hope this blog will help some readers who are dealing with a grieving child. Please feel free to ask questions or make comments. I am here to help. However, each situation and each child is different, so any suggestions I might make are only suggestions. They are not to be considered as counseling. Please help me start the conversation.

Anger: What Do I Do About it?

Everyone gets angry. It’s a common emotion. If you believe you have never been angry, I would guess you’re in denial – a stuffer. How is that working for you? Others explode. How does that impact your boss, your spouse, your children?

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Okay then, you might say. What else can I do? That question plagues almost everyone from time to time. First, let me say righteous anger is not a sin. But it can become a sin depending on how you handle it. There are degrees of anger, everything from mildly irritated to rage strong enough to kill, even some that does carry through to murder.

In fact, it may even be the anger that causes the person to pull the trigger. Why? Because anger hurts the person who is angry. The angry behavior may hurt the target of the anger, but the angry person feels the pain of the anger. Anger that leads to retaliation also hurts the perpetrator who more than likely gets caught and the consequences can be much worse than the angry feeling.

What about the stuffer? The stuffers may not be in touch with their anger. Don’t be fooled. The anger is hidden deep in the stuffer’s body. It can lead to all kinds of physical symptoms, including heart attacks.

The solution for both is easy to write about, but not so easy to do in the moment. First, the angry person needs to recognize the angry feelings. Then take a time out to calm down. Consider your part in the situation that caused your anger. Don’t go back until you can talk rationally. Listen to the other person’s words. Explain your side of the story.

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The Bible says, “In your anger, do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” (Ephesian 4:26 NIV) It also tells us, (“If your brother sins against you, go, and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.” (Matthew 18:15 NIV) This is great advice, even if you are not a believer.

One more step can keep you our of trouble. Forgive. Do it as soon as you can. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you like what happened or even that you want to continue the relationship with the source of your anger. It just means you are willing to live with the consequences of what the person did.  Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting it to hurt the other person. Forgiveness sets your free.

I would love to hear your questions or your suggestions based on this blog.

Do you have anything you do that helps you calm yourself when you feel angry?

Is there an experience where you learned something to help you with your anger or someone else’s anger?

This is an important subject because too many young people are getting killed because they don’t know how to deal with anger.

What suggestions can you give to help?

 

Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

“Emotional Neglect is the white space in the family picture; the background rather than the foreground. It is insidious and overlooked while it does its silent damage to people’s lives.” (Dr. Jonic…

Source: Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

If My People . . .

This blog reminds us. We are a Christian nation.

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As we look at today’s America, sometimes it’s almost impossible to recognize the country we once knew so well. Contrary to what many would have us believe, we were founded on Christian principles. Today some would call those of us living by those principles terrorists. Instead of living by God’s standards of right and wrong, people are encouraged to do their own thing. Decide for themselves what’s right for them. Our Constitution is considered outdated. Courts are ruling against Christians who make a stand for their within their own businesses. Marriage has been redefined. And on and on . . .

So what can we as Christians do? It’s easy to point fingers. At the politicians. At the ones condemning us for our faith. But God tells us to look inward first.

If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face…

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