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What Can Be Worse than the Worst Abuse of All?

Since my last blog was entitled The Worst Abuse of All, you may think I’m crazy. You would be wrong, because if you remember, I ended it by saying, “This may not be the worst abuse of all.” In my opinion, it’s horrible, but not the worst. Spiritual or cult abuse by a parent is worse. Can you imagine a mother who would take her baby child to cult meetings in the middle of the night, just to allow the leaders to drug, rape, shame, and twist the truth beyond recognition?

There were times when I would say I couldn’t imagine such a terrible thing. Then in my counseling office, I met several counselees who experienced such human tragedies when they were small children. The mind of a child has no place to put this type of abuse, so they dissociate it away. It’s similar to creating an imaginary friend. Children who have not experienced those circumstances may create an imaginary friend. It’s normal. In fact, it shows a good imagination. Children who have experienced cult abuse are different. Sometimes the cult leaders trick them to create alters by calling them differenct names at different times. Alters is another word used for multiple personalities, which is now called DID or dissociative identity disorder. God created their minds to use the alters so they could forget or dissociate away the abuse that happened while they were children.

As they grow to adulthood, memories come back. They still may not know why they have such strange thoughts and voices in their heads. At first, the alters help them make it through the day. If the abuse continued for a long time, the adult parts of the person may go for years wondering why they struggle so. They don’t remember that part of their lives. I have read it takes about five years for the psychiatric community to recognize a person has alters. Yet they need help to find their real self, the self they were born to be. They need to remember the past in order to forget the past.

It often takes years for the abuse victim to find the help they need. In the meantime, they struggle to survive. Most do survive, because God has wired them to be survivors. People with dissociative identity disorder are still children at heart, children in adult bodies who feel shame and fear in most circumstances. They need caring people to help them learn ways to manage life. They are not dangerous to others, but they may be dangerouse to themselves at times. If you happen to know a person with DID, please be kind and helpful. Once they trust you, they will do anything to keep your friendship so be sensitive to their pain. They are some of my favorite people.

The Worst Abuse of All

Traffickers steal the freedon of their prey. They force them to take drugs to keep their victims so addicted they don’t believe they can leave. It, in fact, is true. They can’t leave. They are prisoners of war, a war for human decency. Most victims never dreamed it would happen to them, but I’ve been told once a pimp gets a person, he won’t let go.

It’s money. It’s slave labor. It’s selfishness. It’s deplorable. Being held prisoner and forced to use their bodies in ways they never expected is deplorable. Not the person, but the situation. But they don’t know how to get out, and they sometimes become so brain-washed they think they want to stay. It sickens me that one human can do that to another.

This is not always grown women. They take little girls,teens, men and even babies.

Traffickers even abduct children.

I asked my nephew who was a policeman in a large city where the trafficking is worse. He said it’s worse from the high value suburbs to the downtown area and everywhere in between. I asked again for clarification. He repeated exactly what he said before. As we sat and talked with others, including his mother, he had never told her as much about his work before.

What can the average citizen do about trafficking? First, pray. Not only for the victims you don’t know, but also for the young girls and boys you do know. Pray for the police who have to deal with this horrible problem. Pray for the little girls who find themselves trapped and drugged, when they started to walk to a friends house. Pray for the parents who have no idea where their little girls are. Yes, traffickers grab little girls off the street and give them drugs to keep them from running. As they got hooked on drugs, they also became hooked on their abusers. Pray for people like my friend who may get a call from the police in the middle of the night and drive to the worst part of the city and rescue the girl who wants out. Then pray that she gets out and stays out.

Father, only You can heal this great land of trafficking. Please protect our children. Please watch over our police officers. Please be with those who have been trafficked and the families of those who have no idea where their family member is. Pray for the judges who have to determine what to do with the traffickers when they get arrested. Pray this will stop.

This may not be the worst abuse of all. More later.